Plus: coming out in your 40s $$PLAIN_TEXT_PREVIEW$$
 

Vol 002 | March 4 2021

 
 

EQUALITY

WE’RE GOING TO NEED A BIGGER HAMMER

Woe betide the guy who asks why we need International Women's Day this year, huh? This week, PWC unveiled its Women in Work Index which measures economic empowerment for women in 33 OECD countries. PWC’s verdict? Covid is causing a global ‘shecession’ - although let’s agree never to use that word again. In order to undo the damage to women’s careers, progress towards gender equality needs to move twice as fast as it has done to date. Even then it will take until 2030 to fix things. I feel exhausted already. 

So yeah, damn right we need IWD. But to be honest, unless Monday 8th March is declared an official holiday for women, I’m struggling for enthusiasm this year. It's hard not to feel weary at the thought of all those memes encouraging us to 'smash the ceiling!' when actually glass walls have gone up around us too.

But there’s hope! IWD's theme for 2021 is ‘Choose to Challenge’ - to call out inequality. I’d say women have been doing a pretty good job of that for, ooh, a couple of centuries now. And in the last year - well, it’s practically been our second (or is that third?) job. So, in the way that we don't expect only breast cancer survivors to run sponsored laps round the park in October, how about we see more men being ‘challenged’ to take part in IWD too? And I don’t just mean the good guys turning up to their female CEO’s keynote.

Imagine if instead of women doing all the work (imposter syndrome seminar - step this way! Female leadership lecture - sorry, no budget!), there were equal numbers of workshops for stubborn male CEOs on why shattering the glass ceiling is golden for the bottom line (this handy guide brilliantly outlines the potential). There could be a once-and-for-all, please-don’t-ever-ask-again masterclass on How Not to be a Perv in the Workplace (breakout session: 5 Ways to Tell that You Don’t Live in a 'Different Era') for the handsy few still stubbornly insisting that they never got the memo. Plus talks on how to request flexible hours for men whose caring responsibilities or lifestyle ambitions require more than 48hours input. Hell, add in a bit of male-focused corporate bandwagonery and we’ll be progressing at double the speed in no time!

Meanwhile, women could use the day to refill our tanks and quell the nebulous sense of being “constantly vigilant but utterly paralysed” that Jennifer Crichton’s article viscerally gives shape to. And finally we could all - regardless of child status or gender - just sit and marvel together at the incredible piece of living history that is the New York Times Primal Scream project and agree this must never happen again. Its 'Three Mothers on the Brink' article has been shared a lot, but the other pieces are equally excellent. As is the actual audio from actual mothers calling the project’s hotline to rant - which sounds awful, but is both endearing, heartbreaking and even at times humorous. As with IWD’s challenge, let’s hope it’s not just women listening.

3 meaningful ways to mark IWD:

  1. Have your say: Share your views in this poll and the Global Women's March will use them to highlight priorities for governments and women's rights groups. Be quick though - closes on March 8th.

  2. Show support: Legally, IWD should mark British woman Nazanin Zaghari-Ratcliffe’s first day of freedom after five years detention in Iran on charges she’s always denied. Little has been said about her release but Amnesty is publicly counting down to ensure she's not forgotten. Support on your socials here.

  3. Buy this: Want to create more equity in your partnership? Couples That Work, by organisational behavioural Professor Jennifer Petriglieri is not just a book, but a framework for dual career couples, so both can thrive in love and work. It's original, practical and deeply revealing - for a taster, watch this three minute Ted talk or learn about her ‘couples contract’ in this previous piece I wrote here

 

RELATIONSHIPS

JENNA LYONS ON COMING OUT IN YOUR 40s

You can almost hear Jenna Lyons, former CEO of J.Crew, still catching her breath in this short but impactful piece on how she came out, or rather was outed, years ago. It raises interesting questions about how despite all the rhetoric these days around following your own path, we're still unprepared for people to do so in midlife. Lyons was 43 and in the midst of a divorce from a man when she fell in love with a woman. Presumably because they were so convinced it wasn't true, her PR team raised the rumour of her new relationship on a group conference call. IMAGINE. What I really love though, is how Lyons ultimately keeps control of her story. Looking back, rather than feeling compelled to conform to a new narrative, she remains refreshingly honest. “Am I gay, am I bi? I don't know if it matters.”

 

HEALTH

OESTROGEN: A SECRET WEAPON AGAINST COVID?

“Women who take either the combined contraceptive pill or hormone replacement therapy – both of which include oestrogen – have a lower risk of ending up in hospital and of dying (from Covid)”

So explains journalist Kate Muir. While more studies are needed, and research in to women’s health is notoriously lacking, this piece is an important call to arms for both. Essential reading for midlife women.

 

EMPOWER

NOT JUST ANOTHER LOCKDOWN WALK

I’m still trying to figure out how I feel about those Deep Nostalgia images of Harriet Tubman. But they did remind me of this inspiring group of women who walked Harriet’s underground railroad after feeling overwhelmed by the events of 2020. A quiet magic seems to power their journey through the past. Reading about it feels like a warm hug.

 

POLITICS

“THATCHERISM IN YOGA PANTS”

One curious source of conspiracy theories right now - particularly amongst women - is the new breed of wellness influencer or ‘conspiritualist’. Sian Norris’ piece offers a fascinating look at how seemingly empowering posts on “living fearlessly” and “following your intuition” can suck otherwise level headed followers in to a world of covid-denying memes and even far right rhetoric. Or as she memorably says about one popular Instagrammer: "Her videos can feel like watching Thatcherism in yoga pants." Coming to a Whatsapp chat near you soon?

 

CULTURE

WAS THIS CULT NOVEL ON YOUR 90S BOOKSHELF?

Remember The Bridges of Madison County, the outrageously successful novel by Robert James Waller that for a while in the 90s every woman seemed to be reading? Thirty years on, former fans may struggle to explain why a book about covered bridges spawned not just a Hollywood film but an entire perfume range, but we can at least delight in this acerbic review through 21st century eyes. Molly Osberg mercilessly skewers the cowboy-meets-housewife affair that at the time, Oprah called ‘a gift to the country’. Pair with an Old Fashioned and a smirk.

 

I’d love to hear your thoughts - on these stories, the state of the world or just what the hell’s for dinner tonight. Drop me a line below.

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Nicolaas Maesstraat, Amsterdam, Netherlands

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